bell hooks the will to change
A synopsis
The Will to Change (First Half)
This is the most painful truth of male domination, that men wield patriarchal power in daily life in ways that are awesomely life-threatening, that women and children cower in fear and various states of powerlessness, believing that the only way out of their suffering, their only hope is for men to die…Women and female and male children…have wanted them dead because they believe that these men are not willing to change. (p xv). It is not true that men are unwilling to change. It is true that many men are afraid to change. (p xvii)
Women want men (including fathers, uncles, brothers, friends, colleagues, and male sexual/romantic partners) to love them.
Many people who seek love (and sex) from men/male bodies in unhealthy ways because of the lack of feeling loved by early father figures/men in their lives.
You can see this in the way that some folks attach too quickly and cannot verbalize or stick to/uphold boundaries.
Emotions and the desire to change to beco…